The loss of a family member can be a terrible thing, no matter how expected or graceful it may have been for you all. We needn’t have to modify this with a range of other additional empathizing insights, because you understand just as well as us how hard times can be when something like this takes place. While we won’t force you to dwell on that, you do have our sympathies.
Yet while you do not need an insightful website to tell you about the emotional practicalities of dealing with such an event, coping and digesting the news appropriately can be a skill to learn, and help us through the worst of it. After all, we do not go through this alone, and so ensuring we’re there for our inner and extended family can be a worthwhile use of your time. While it can be very difficult to accomplish, this can be a great time to honor our lost loved one in the best way, by acting as they would have liked us to.
With that, we may consider the following.
Estate Handling
Managing the estate of your family is an important consideration at this point, especially if the will was unclear or there are special requests to work through. Rarely is this as clean as people envision it is, or as families would prefer. For that reason, using the best estate litigation attorney can help you get to the bottom of this kind of issue, without having to cause drama or disagreements with your relatives. And, if this is the unfortunate case, having a legal expert by your side can certainly aid with the difficulty. In fact, that’s something of an understatement.
Helping Children Understand
It’s never nice to explain to children the realities of losing a loved one. It never gets easier, but the first time can be a very tough one, because not only do you have to explain the unfortunate scenario but also answer a few of their pressing questions in a suitable fashion.
I will never forget the first loss I experienced, the passing of my beloved grandfather. I can still picture sitting in my nana’s living room on the couch, knowing something was wrong but not sure what. Then my mother came and told me the news, and I just collapsed in a puddle of tears. It is an image that will remain with me for the rest of my life.
The best we can do is remind them of how loved they are and how loved our departed relative is, and to ensure they are spared the details while emphasizing the great life they had lived and the connection they shared. This, even in a small way, makes the news more digestible.
Forcing Nothing
It’s hard to know how to act in these times. But remember, it’s important that you do not force yourself to feel a certain way, nor to pretend that times aren’t tough right now. If you need to cancel your outing at the weekend to enjoy a family meal and spend more time together, or if you all just wish to have your own space during the day, whatever works for you is fine. We all take a different approach when dealing with grief, and reminding ourselves of that fact can prevent us from becoming overwhelmed.
With this advice, we hope you can more easily and sensibly digest loss as a family.
